C.H. Romatowski
‪@chromatowski.bsky.social‬
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NIH recently found 1 in 22 ppl who’d had Covid developed ME/CFS. The “mild” form of that disease, as
@julialmv.bsky.social
’s graph shows, means losing capacity to do 50% of your daily activities. What would you give up? Friends? Time w/your kids? Could you cut work hours in half w/o losing yr job?

A stacked bar chart (oriented horizontally) labeled: Living with ME (myalgic encephalomyelitis / chronic fatigue syndrome) Each horizontal bar is a disease status: Pre-ME, Mild ME, Moderate ME, Severe ME, Very Severe ME. The width of each bar represents how much energy is available in each status (100, 50, 25, 12.5, and 6.25 respectively). Each bar is divided into sections for how one might allocate their energy: hygiene & nutrition (gray); caregiving, cleaning errands (red); work (orange); exercise (yellow); friends (green); hobbies (blue); fun (purple). With worsening ME, the hygiene & nutrition takes up a larger proportion of total available energy and the amount of energy available for all other parts of life shrinks. Mild ME has most things cut in half, with exercise cut smaller. Moderate ME removes exercise altogether, and everything else shrinks. Severe ME has only tiny slivers of red, orange, green, blue and purple. Very Severe ME has only a tiny sliver of green.
C.H. Romatowski ‪@chromatowski.bsky.social‬ Follow back NIH recently found 1 in 22 ppl who’d had Covid developed ME/CFS. The “mild” form of that disease, as @julialmv.bsky.social ’s graph shows, means losing capacity to do 50% of your daily activities. What would you give up? Friends? Time w/your kids? Could you cut work hours in half w/o losing yr job? A stacked bar chart (oriented horizontally) labeled: Living with ME (myalgic encephalomyelitis / chronic fatigue syndrome) Each horizontal bar is a disease status: Pre-ME, Mild ME, Moderate ME, Severe ME, Very Severe ME. The width of each bar represents how much energy is available in each status (100, 50, 25, 12.5, and 6.25 respectively). Each bar is divided into sections for how one might allocate their energy: hygiene & nutrition (gray); caregiving, cleaning errands (red); work (orange); exercise (yellow); friends (green); hobbies (blue); fun (purple). With worsening ME, the hygiene & nutrition takes up a larger proportion of total available energy and the amount of energy available for all other parts of life shrinks. Mild ME has most things cut in half, with exercise cut smaller. Moderate ME removes exercise altogether, and everything else shrinks. Severe ME has only tiny slivers of red, orange, green, blue and purple. Very Severe ME has only a tiny sliver of green.
C.H. Romatowski
‪@chromatowski.bsky.social‬
Follow back
NIH recently found 1 in 22 ppl who’d had Covid developed ME/CFS. The “mild” form of that disease, as
@julialmv.bsky.social
’s graph shows, means losing capacity to do 50% of your daily activities. What would you give up? Friends? Time w/your kids? Could you cut work hours in half w/o losing yr job?

A stacked bar chart (oriented horizontally) labeled: Living with ME (myalgic encephalomyelitis / chronic fatigue syndrome) Each horizontal bar is a disease status: Pre-ME, Mild ME, Moderate ME, Severe ME, Very Severe ME. The width of each bar represents how much energy is available in each status (100, 50, 25, 12.5, and 6.25 respectively). Each bar is divided into sections for how one might allocate their energy: hygiene & nutrition (gray); caregiving, cleaning errands (red); work (orange); exercise (yellow); friends (green); hobbies (blue); fun (purple). With worsening ME, the hygiene & nutrition takes up a larger proportion of total available energy and the amount of energy available for all other parts of life shrinks. Mild ME has most things cut in half, with exercise cut smaller. Moderate ME removes exercise altogether, and everything else shrinks. Severe ME has only tiny slivers of red, orange, green, blue and purple. Very Severe ME has only a tiny sliver of green.
C.H. Romatowski ‪@chromatowski.bsky.social‬ Follow back NIH recently found 1 in 22 ppl who’d had Covid developed ME/CFS. The “mild” form of that disease, as @julialmv.bsky.social ’s graph shows, means losing capacity to do 50% of your daily activities. What would you give up? Friends? Time w/your kids? Could you cut work hours in half w/o losing yr job? A stacked bar chart (oriented horizontally) labeled: Living with ME (myalgic encephalomyelitis / chronic fatigue syndrome) Each horizontal bar is a disease status: Pre-ME, Mild ME, Moderate ME, Severe ME, Very Severe ME. The width of each bar represents how much energy is available in each status (100, 50, 25, 12.5, and 6.25 respectively). Each bar is divided into sections for how one might allocate their energy: hygiene & nutrition (gray); caregiving, cleaning errands (red); work (orange); exercise (yellow); friends (green); hobbies (blue); fun (purple). With worsening ME, the hygiene & nutrition takes up a larger proportion of total available energy and the amount of energy available for all other parts of life shrinks. Mild ME has most things cut in half, with exercise cut smaller. Moderate ME removes exercise altogether, and everything else shrinks. Severe ME has only tiny slivers of red, orange, green, blue and purple. Very Severe ME has only a tiny sliver of green.
Why I Can’t Just Meet You for Dinner
The Reality of Post-Exertional Malaise
Fred Rossi
Nov 07, 2025
The conversation always goes the same way. Someone asks if I want to join them for a meal, grab a drink, go to the movies, or some perfectly reasonable social activity that healthy people do without thinking. And when I hesitate, or decline, or try to explain why a Tuesday evening gathering might not work when I’m working Wednesday morning, I can see it in their faces and hear it in their voices: they think I’m making excuses.

I’m not making excuses. I’m doing accounting.

What PEM Actually Is (And Why “Tired” Doesn’t Cut It)

Post-exertional malaise (PEM for those of us who live with it intimately) is not tiredness. It’s not even exhaustion. It’s a systemic crash that occurs after physical, cognitive, or emotional exertion that exceeds your body’s brutally reduced energy envelope.
Why I Can’t Just Meet You for Dinner The Reality of Post-Exertional Malaise Fred Rossi Nov 07, 2025 The conversation always goes the same way. Someone asks if I want to join them for a meal, grab a drink, go to the movies, or some perfectly reasonable social activity that healthy people do without thinking. And when I hesitate, or decline, or try to explain why a Tuesday evening gathering might not work when I’m working Wednesday morning, I can see it in their faces and hear it in their voices: they think I’m making excuses. I’m not making excuses. I’m doing accounting. What PEM Actually Is (And Why “Tired” Doesn’t Cut It) Post-exertional malaise (PEM for those of us who live with it intimately) is not tiredness. It’s not even exhaustion. It’s a systemic crash that occurs after physical, cognitive, or emotional exertion that exceeds your body’s brutally reduced energy envelope.
Why I Can’t Just Meet You for Dinner
The Reality of Post-Exertional Malaise
Fred Rossi
Nov 07, 2025
The conversation always goes the same way. Someone asks if I want to join them for a meal, grab a drink, go to the movies, or some perfectly reasonable social activity that healthy people do without thinking. And when I hesitate, or decline, or try to explain why a Tuesday evening gathering might not work when I’m working Wednesday morning, I can see it in their faces and hear it in their voices: they think I’m making excuses.

I’m not making excuses. I’m doing accounting.

What PEM Actually Is (And Why “Tired” Doesn’t Cut It)

Post-exertional malaise (PEM for those of us who live with it intimately) is not tiredness. It’s not even exhaustion. It’s a systemic crash that occurs after physical, cognitive, or emotional exertion that exceeds your body’s brutally reduced energy envelope.
Why I Can’t Just Meet You for Dinner The Reality of Post-Exertional Malaise Fred Rossi Nov 07, 2025 The conversation always goes the same way. Someone asks if I want to join them for a meal, grab a drink, go to the movies, or some perfectly reasonable social activity that healthy people do without thinking. And when I hesitate, or decline, or try to explain why a Tuesday evening gathering might not work when I’m working Wednesday morning, I can see it in their faces and hear it in their voices: they think I’m making excuses. I’m not making excuses. I’m doing accounting. What PEM Actually Is (And Why “Tired” Doesn’t Cut It) Post-exertional malaise (PEM for those of us who live with it intimately) is not tiredness. It’s not even exhaustion. It’s a systemic crash that occurs after physical, cognitive, or emotional exertion that exceeds your body’s brutally reduced energy envelope.
Why I Can’t Just Meet You for Dinner
The Reality of Post-Exertional Malaise
Fred Rossi
Nov 07, 2025
The conversation always goes the same way. Someone asks if I want to join them for a meal, grab a drink, go to the movies, or some perfectly reasonable social activity that healthy people do without thinking. And when I hesitate, or decline, or try to explain why a Tuesday evening gathering might not work when I’m working Wednesday morning, I can see it in their faces and hear it in their voices: they think I’m making excuses.

I’m not making excuses. I’m doing accounting.

What PEM Actually Is (And Why “Tired” Doesn’t Cut It)

Post-exertional malaise (PEM for those of us who live with it intimately) is not tiredness. It’s not even exhaustion. It’s a systemic crash that occurs after physical, cognitive, or emotional exertion that exceeds your body’s brutally reduced energy envelope.
Why I Can’t Just Meet You for Dinner The Reality of Post-Exertional Malaise Fred Rossi Nov 07, 2025 The conversation always goes the same way. Someone asks if I want to join them for a meal, grab a drink, go to the movies, or some perfectly reasonable social activity that healthy people do without thinking. And when I hesitate, or decline, or try to explain why a Tuesday evening gathering might not work when I’m working Wednesday morning, I can see it in their faces and hear it in their voices: they think I’m making excuses. I’m not making excuses. I’m doing accounting. What PEM Actually Is (And Why “Tired” Doesn’t Cut It) Post-exertional malaise (PEM for those of us who live with it intimately) is not tiredness. It’s not even exhaustion. It’s a systemic crash that occurs after physical, cognitive, or emotional exertion that exceeds your body’s brutally reduced energy envelope.